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Kindness is a Virtue

 Hello wifey, Hello hubby... 

Kindness is a virtue. It was a virtue yesterday. It is undoubtedly still one today and I am certain it will still be tomorrow. Kindness is an important virtue for sustaining relationships, which helps to build a trusting and cooperative society. So, as long as we still live in this world and interpersonal relationships continue to exist, kindness will remain a mark of moral excellence.

Doubtlessly, we are in a generation of wokeness. This means that everyone is woke, with our social awareness to the very high heavens and no one wants to be taken advantage of for any reason. This is a very beautiful place to be. Personally, I love the concept and how almost everyone stands to defend it. But I have a question, "does this sense of alertness against cheating of all sorts rub us off the virtue of kindness?", "Has wokeness replaced this act of humanity originally ingrained in us?", "Do we lose our very kind nature because we do not want to ever be taken for granted?"

This note is specifically to husbands and wives who think they have no business caring for their aged, sick mothers'/fathers' in-law, except maybe they can be paid for such services. Would you request for same if it were your parent in such shoes? My understanding of marriage is that it is a form of adoption through marriage. By adoption, I have become a child, with all rights and privileges as well as responsibilities due a child. This way, I SHOULD treat my parents in-law same way I SHOULD treat my biological parents. And this is what it is all about!

You may ask, "what if the parents in-law are not keeping to their part of the covenant?" Well, I know some persons have deadbeat parents but somehow, they still manage to care for them. This post is specifically addressed to present and future daughters and sons in-law. And I wish to encourage the persons in this group who feel no sense of obligation towards their spouse's parents to change their mindsets and do better at caring for their parents in-love, just as they would care for their own biological parents. I know this can be quite tiring and challenging in all ramifications, but it is still doable, with love.

Sadly, most men think only their wives have this responsibility of rendering care to sick, aged parents. You just have to change that mindset. Anyone can and it is not gender based! Every family should have an understanding of their day-to-day activities and intentionally accommodate caring for their sick-aged parents if they have them around. If couples cannot care for their parents due to some circumstances, then they must make substantive arrangement for a person or persons who can render such services to their loved one.

Dear husband, dear wife. Love is an action word. If you love your spouse, then you must care for their parents like your own. Marriage is a form of adoption and I plead with you to adopt your parents in-law into becoming your parent. Kindness of this nature may be underrated in our time but it is still an all-time virtue. Be kind with all your heart and posterity will be kind to you.

          A daughter in-law today is a prospective mother in-law, in the nearest future. A son in-law today             is a prospective father in-law, in the nearest future. Never forget this.


With love,
Amarachi.


Comments

  1. Anonymous5 October 2023 at 13:30

    Indeed marriage is a form of adoption,and we must adopt our parents inlaw as ours.
    Thank you for reminding us that kindness is a virtue,i pray this post brings positive change to many homes.

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  2. Anonymous5 October 2023 at 14:35

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  3. Amarachi Nwankwo's Blog9 October 2023 at 05:29

    Amen! Thank you so much and may God bless your home

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