TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN

TO WHOM IT MAY CONCERN

We are human beings’ first

Then male and female

With each (male/female) having their unique attributes-

And roles specific to their genders.

But as humans who are dynamic by nature, we can switch roles without much ado-

But only IF we have/want to.

No one should be rebuked or undermined for sticking strictly to his/her gender roles.

No one’s rights should be infringed on for being male or female

This is what feminism is all about!

Both men and women have the rights to vote, to hold public offices, to work,

To earn fair and equal wages, to own property, to be educated and so on.

However, when it comes to the home, there is a Divine established structure.

Here, the man is the head with all sole responsibilities.

And the woman is a help mate, created to assist the man in his responsibilities.

Now my opinion….

A woman is meant to keep the home

Making sure her husband, the kids and everyone else are well taken care of,

There’s food to eat and all…

And in this modern times, assist her husband financially when there’s need for that.

The word for a woman is ‘assistance’

Now, I will not coman be forming jackichan because I am a ‘feminist’

Carry all the burdens that my gender did not send me to carry,

Fail to perform my duties as a woman, a daughter, wife and mother because I want to prove to a man that I am equal to him yen yen yen…

Feminism is necessarily not about equality but equity.

It is not a gender competition.

I cannot frown at the very concept of love, romance and family life and only focus on building my career because I want to join the ‘pepper the male folks gang’

No!

I am a woman, I am beautiful, soft, tender yet strong and fierce.

I am caring, emotional but not vulnerable.

I love to be treated right, to be pampered upandan

And I will not camouflage this very aspect (that some women now pretend about) of mine as a woman because I want the male folks to know just how important I am.

They already know that.

I live my life, they live theirs.

There should be liberation for both genders.

No one should be violated in any way for being male or female.

That you’re the head of the home doesn’t give you the right to ride on the other person.

That you’re not the head of the home doesn’t mean you should not submit to the head, become envious and rebellious.

Let each man and woman stick to his/her gender roles and only intelligently switch when the need arises without ‘causing fight’.

Why I’m I ranting about this?

Because I’m tired of having to listen to so many sadists wanting, striving to be what God has not created them to be in their homes,

Destroying their ‘especially’ male counterparts’ coz they’re simply sad being what is required of their gender.

This is a call to stop spreading hate and spread love instead.

Life’s too short to be sad.

Appreciate your sex.

Appreciate your gender roles.

Love everyone irrespective of their genders.

Treat every human fairly and equally, with love and respect.

Understand your roles as a man/woman especially in the home.

Then, stick to them.

THANK YOU.

© Amarachi Nwankwo, 2018